,I DIDN'T UND]/& H[ WIDESPREAD RAPE WAS4 ,!N ! P5NY DROPP$ 

,PEOPLE 3 

,AU?OR 3 ,DAVID ,GRAEB] 

,TEXT 3 

,?IS IS A V]Y DIFFICULT COLUMN = ME TO WRITE BECAUSE IT'S AB\T MY MO!R4 

,A WEEK OR TWO AFT] ! !N ,I,M,F DIRECTOR ,DOM9IQUE ,/RAUSS-,KAHN WAS >RE/$ = SEXUALLY ASSAULT+ A *AMB]MAID 9 A PO% ,NEW ,YORK HOTEL 9 #b#a#a1 !RE WAS ANO!R CASE :5 AN ,EGYPTIAN BUS9ESSMAN WAS BRIEFLY >RE/$ = A SIMIL> ASSAULT AT ANO!R SU* ,NEW ,YORK HOTEL4 

,?IS FIR/ /RUCK ME AS PUZZL+4 ,IT C\LD H>DLY BE A COPYCAT CRIME2 CONSID]+ ! DRAMA SURR\ND+ ! >RE/ & TRAVAILS ( ,D,S,K1 IT WAS 9CONCEIVABLE ?AT ANYONE W\LD SEE ?IS & SAY3 0,OH GOOD IDEA1 ,I'LL ATTACK A *AMB]MAID AS WELL40 

,!N IT DAWN$ ON ME4 

,! ONLY LOGICAL EXPLANATION WAS ?AT BUS9ESSM51 POLITICIANS1 (FICIALS & F9ANCI]S RAPE1 OR ATTEMPT TO RAPE1 HOTEL WORK]S ALL ! TIME4 ,IT'S JU/ ?AT NORMALLY1 ?OSE ASSAULT$ KN[ !RE'S NO?+ !Y CAN DO AB\T IT4 

,9 ,D,S,K'S CASE1 SOMEONE - = :ATEV] COMPLEX POLITICAL REASONS - MU/ HAVE REFUS$ TO MAKE ! USUAL PHONE CALL4 ,!RE WAS A SC&AL4 ,AS A RESULT1 :5 ! NEXT ASSAULT TOOK PLACE1 ! SURVIVOR MU/ HAVE SAID TO H]SELF1 0,OH1 SO DOES ?IS MEAN WE ACTUALLY >E ALL[$ TO CALL ! COPS N[ IF A CU/OM] TRIES TO RAPE US80 & ACT$ ACCORD+LY4 ,& SURE 5\< ?IS IS PRECISELY :AT TURN$ \T TO HAVE HAPP5$4 7,9 ! 5D1 BO? WOM5 W]E SIL5C$1 & NEI!R MAN CONVICT$ ( ANY CRIME47 

,:AT ,I REALLY WANT TO DRAW ATT5TION TO H]E IS MY 9ITIAL REACTION ( DISBELIEF3 0,SURE ?+S >E BAD2 BUT IT CAN'T BE ?AT BAD40 ,EV5 A LEFTY ACADEMIC V]S$ 9 FEM9I/ !ORY 9/9CTIVELY REBELL$ AGA9/ ! IDEA ?AT RI* & P[]FUL M5 REGUL>LY RAPE OR ATTEMPT TO RAPE ! WOM5 CLEAN+ !IR ROOMS1 ?AT ?IS HAPP5S ALL ! TIME1 ?AT EV]YONE 9 ! HOTEL 9DU/RY KN[S IT HAPP5S 7S9CE !Y MU/ KN[71 & ?AT ?OSE RI* & P[]FUL M5 9 TURN KN[ !Y C\LD GET AWAY ) IT BECAUSE IF ANY WOMAN !Y ATTACK$ DID PROTE/ TOO /R5U\SLY1 EV]YONE W\LD MOVE 9 LOCK/EP TO DO :ATEV] WAS REQUIR$ TO MAKE ! PROBLEM GO AWAY4 

,IT'S ( C\RSE ?IS V]Y DISBELIEF ?AT ALL[S SU* ?+S TO HAPP54 ,WE >E LOA! TO ACCEPT PEOPLE WE MI<T KN[ MI<T PRACTICE PURE1 NAK$ AGGRESSION4 ,?IS IS H[ BULLIES GET AWAY ) :AT !Y DO4 ,I'VE WRITT5 AB\T ?IS4 

,BULLY+ IS NOT JU/ A RELATION BETWE5 BULLY & VICTIM4 ,IT'S REALLY A ?REE-WAY RELATION1 BETWE5 BULLY1 VICTIM & EV]YONE :O REFUSES TO DO ANY?+ AB\T ! AGGRESSION2 ALL ?OSE PEOPLE :O SAY 0BOYS WILL BE BOYS0 OR PRET5D !RE'S SOME EQUIVAL5CE BETWE5 AGGRESSOR & AGGRESS$4 ,:O SEE A CONFLICT & SAY 0IT DOESN'T MATT] :O />T$ IT0 EV5 9 CASES :]E1 9 REALITY1 NO?+ C\LD POSSIBLY MATT] MORE4 

,IT MAKES NO DIFF]5CE IF !RE'S A REAL PHYSICAL AUDI5CE OR IF ! AUDI5CE JU/ EXI/S 9SIDE ! VICTIM'S HEAD4 ,Y\ KN[ :AT WILL HAPP5 IF Y\ FI<T BACK4 ,Y\ KN[ :AT PEOPLE WILL SAY AB\T Y\4 ,Y\ 9T]NALIZE IT4 ,BE=E LONG1 EV5 IF NO?+ IS SAID1 Y\ CAN'T HELP WOND] IF !SE ?+S !Y W\LD SAY >E ACTUALLY TRUE4 

,SEXUAL PR$ATION IS A P>TICUL> V>IETY ( BULLY+ BUT LIKE ALL =MS ( BULLY+ IT OP]ATES ABOVE ALL 9 PRECISELY ?IS WAY BY DE/ROY+ ! VICTIM'S S5SE ( SELF4 

,I HAD ANO!R1 SIMIL>1 HORRIFI$ MOM5T ( REALIZATION 9 READ+ ,DAME ,EMMA ,?OMPSON'S REM>KS AB\T ,H>VEY ,WE9/E94 ,NOT BECAUSE ( H] OBS]VATION ?AT HIS PR$ATIONS W]E1 AS %E SAID1 0! TIP ( ! ICEB]G0 - ?IS IS SURELY TRUE1 BUT NOT 5TIRELY UNKN[N2 :AT />TL$ ME WAS ONE WORD4 ,%E DESCRIB$ ,WE9/E9'S BEHAVIOR AS TYPICAL ( 0A SY/EM ( H>ASSM5T & BELITTL+ & BULLY+ & 9T]F]5CE0 ?AT WOM5 HAD FAC$ FROM TIME IMMEMORIAL4 

,! WORD ?AT /RUCK ME WAS 0BELITTL+04 

,?IS IS :]E ! /ORY BECOMES P]SONAL4 

,LET ME TELL Y\ AB\T MY MO!R4 ,MOM WAS A PRODIGY4 ,>RIV+ 9 ,AM]ICA AT AGE #a1 SPEAK+ NOT A WORD ( ,5GLI%1 %E SKIPP$ SO MANY GRADES %E WAS 9 COLLEGE BY #a#f4 ,!N %E DROPP$ \T ( COLLEGE TO HELP ! FAMILY 7IT WAS ! ,DEPRESSION7 BY GETT+ A FACTORY JOB SEW+ BRASSI]ES4 

,! UNION HAD ! CRAZY IDEA AT ?AT TIME TO PUT ON A MUSICAL COM$Y P]=M$ 5TIRELY BY G>M5T WORK]S4 ,! PLAY 7,P9S & ,NE$LES7 SURPRIS$ EV]YONE BY BECOM+ A SMA% HIT ON ,BROADWAY1 ) MOM 7!N ,RU? ,RUB9/E97 AS FEMALE LEAD4 

,%E WAS HAIL$ AS A COMIC G5IUS1 :I* ,I CAN ATTE/ %E DEF9ITELY WAS1 WAS FEATUR$ 9 ,LIFE1 MET ,F,D,R & ,GYPSY ,ROSE ,LEE1 & = ?REE YE>S HOBNOBB$ ) CELEBRITIES & WAS GOSSIP$ AB\T 9 GOSSIP COLUMNS4 ,!N %E W5T BACK TO WORK+ 9 ! FACTORY AGA94 

,EV5TUALLY %E MET MY FA!R1 !N A SAILOR2 HE F\ND WORK 9 (FSET LI?OGRAPHY1 %E D$ICAT$ H]SELF TO RAIS+ ME & MY BRO!R1 ALONG ) A V>IETY ( LOCAL ACTIVI/ PROJECTS & OCCASIONAL P>T-TIME JOBS4 

,AS A *ILD IT NEV] OCCURR$ TO ME TO ASK :Y %E NEV] CONT9U$ 9 ! !AT]1 EV5 ?\< %E FOLL[$ IT AVIDLY1 OR W5T BACK TO COLLEGE1 EV5 ?\< %E FILL$ ! H\SE ) BOOKS1 OR PURSU$ H] [N C>E]4 

,:5 ,I LAT] ASK$ %E'D JU/ SAY1 0,I LACK$ SELF-CONFID5CE40 ,BUT ONCE ,I REMEMB] ! PHRASE 0CA/+ C\*0 CAME UP & ,I ASK$ H] IF SU* ?+S HAD EXI/$ 9 H] DAY4 ,%E ?REW H] EYES UP & SAID1 0,WELL1 :Y DO Y\ ?9K ,I NEV] PURSU$ A C>E] 9 %[ BUS9ESS8 ,SOME ( US W]E WILL+ TO SLEEP ) PRODUC]S4 ,I WASN'T40 

,?IS IS :Y ,I'D LIKE TO GET MY ?UMBS ON ! ?ROAT ( ,H>VEY ,WE9/E94 ,IT'S NOT JU/ ?AT CREEPS LIKE HIM DROVE MY MO!R (F ! /AGE4 ,IT'S ?AT 9 ! PROCESS1 !Y BROKE SOME?+4 ,I DON'T KN[ :AT ACTUALLY HAPP5$1 OR IF ANY ONE SPECIFIC ?+ EV5 DID HAPP52 BUT ! RESULT WAS TO LEAVE H] CONV9C$ %E WAS UNWOR?Y2 9TELLECTUALLY SUP]FICIAL2 NOT G5U9ELY TAL5T$2 A LI<TWEI<T2 A FRAUD4 

,BECAUSE JU/ AS EV]YONE ASSOCIAT$ ) HOTELS FALLS 9TO LOCK/EP TO TELL *AMB]MAIDS !Y >E UNWOR?Y ( PROTECTION FROM RAPI/S1 SO DID EV]Y?+ 9 MY MO!R'S 5VIRONM5T CONSPIRE TO TELL H] %E HAD NO GR\NDS = COMPLA9T IF SOMEONE TOLD H] WAS UNWOR?Y TO CONT9UE TO P]=M ON /AGE1 :ATEV] H] ATTA9M5TS1 )\T ALSO P]=M+ 9 PRIVATE AS A P>T-TIME SEX WORK]4 

,AS A RESULT1 H] S5SE ( SELF COLLAPS$4 

,ALL ( US >E HEIRS TO A ?\S& =MS ( VIOL5CE4 ,MANY %APE \R LIVES 9 WAYS WE'LL NEV] KN[4 ,MY MO!R WAS AN 5ORM\S HUMAN /UCK 9 A T9Y BOX4 ,LATE 9 H] LIFE %E WAS /ILL HIL>I\SLY FUNNY2 BUT %E ALSO COLLECT$ TEA T[ELS ) 9SCRIPTIONS LIKE 0DON'T EXPECT MIRACLES04 

,%E RAIS$ ME TO ASSUME ,I WAS DE/9$ = GREATNESS 7LIKE H]1 ,I WAS CONSID]$ SOME?+ ( A PRODIGY71 !N1 W\LD FALL 9TO 9EXPLICABLE DEPRESSION = DAYS ?AT W\LD 9V>IABLY 5D ) H] LA%+ \T AT ME AS A T]RIBLE1 SELFI%1 UNC>+ P]SON = NOT PROP]LY CLEAN+ MY ROOM4 

,ONLY N[ DO ,I UND]/& %E WAS REALLY LA%+ \T AT EV5 HAV+ TO C>E AB\T MY ROOM4 ,LAT] %E LIV$ 9 P>T VIC>I\SLY ?R\< ME BUT ALSO - ,I HAVE TO ASSUME - WAS RACK$ BY GUILT = ANY 9DIGNATION %E C\LD NOT HELP BUT FEEL ?AT ?IS WAS ! ONLY WAY %E C\LD LIVE ! K9D ( LIFE %E %\LD HAVE HAD4 

,9 5DLESS WAYS1 ! VIOL5CE ( P[]FUL M5 PLAYS HAVOC ) \R S\LS4 ,IT MAKES US COMPLICIT 9 ACTS ( MUTUAL DE/RUCTION4 ,IT'S TOO LATE N[ = MY MO!R4 ,%E DI$ #a YE>S AGO1 TAK+ ! DETAILS ( :AT HAPP5$ ) H]4 ,BUT IF WE CAN DO ANY?+ = H] N[1 CAN'T WE AT LEA/ BREAK \T ( LOCK/EP8 

,LET'S /OP PRET5D+ !SE ?+S CAN'T REALLY BE HAPP5+ - & !N1 AS SOON AS WE LE>N IT DID HAPP51 TELL ! P]SON IT HAPP5$ TO1 0,WELL1 :AT ELSE DID Y\ EXPECT80 

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